Well let me start by saying when I first really started dating at age 16, I failed miserably with both women and dating, and that failure went on for years. My failure got progressively worse. I did and said everything wrong and made every mistake a man could make and then some.
Being a handsome guy and well built (I was a professional fitness model), this was not an easy pill for me to swallow, in fact, on several occasions, because my failure with women was so great, I seriously thought of taking my own life. Night after night I went home angry and frustrated after leaving bars and clubs. Finally I broke down, cried a lot and then made a decision that changed the course of my life.
I decided to redirect my pain, anger, and frustration into figuring out this thing called women and dating. I had to (I said to myself), I couldn't go on living life with this kind of social failure, especially with women. I saw men who were less attractive then me, who had no money, and were more successful with attractive women. It was slowly killing me.